Jealousy can kill you
March 20, 2019
“Jealousy is no more than feeling alone against smiling enemies.”-Elizabeth Bowen
According to Mary Jo Rapini, a relationship and family therapist, that jealousy, with all suspicion and irrational thoughts, doesn’t only wreak havoc in your relationships, but also takes its toll on your health. Becoming aware of your own jealousy or tendency for possessiveness and suspicion is the first step, and learning a healthier way to deal with it are the second steps.
Jealousy will kill a relationship because people who are frequently jealous obsess about the person they are most afraid of losing. Soon the person with whom they are in a relationship begins changing. They no longer have the same friends, wear the same clothes, or talk to the same people. The relationship becomes all about the jealous person trying to keep the object of their suspicion safe. No one and no relationship can survive that. The rage and anger present when the jealous person begins feeling threatened that their love will abandon them. Jealousy left unmanaged turns into a very sick situation and violence is the most likely outcome.
Don’t worry, there are steps to stop jealousy, and keep a healthy relationship. One step is to get in touch with your body’s reactions. You can use your body’s responses to situations that trigger insecurities as a physical indicator, similar to an actual red light flashing, to warn you to stop in your tracks before you do something you regret. Another step is to wear a rubber band around your wrist and snap yourself out of jealousy. Doing this will interrupt the internal jealous dialogue going on in your head and train you to learn how to not be jealous in a relationship.
If you want to learn more steps to prevent jealousy, visit the website “Your Tango”. Click the link below to get into the website.
